CHANGE YOUR BEING: change your life

A very intelligent woman in a group of very intelligent women I was working with recently, made the point: “I’ve done the research, I understand the science behind the mind and how it works, and I have all the ‘tools’, but I can’t sustain it. It doesn’t stick!”

Sound familiar? There are a few important points that this woman’s experience brings to light.

1. Sometimes we can get stuck on tools and forget they’re a means to an end, just as, for example, some Christians used to (and still do – though, thankfully, less so these days) get stuck in penance and self-punishment, forgetting that the end is Love.

2. Many ‘tools’ we learn, address the conscious mind and harness our prefrontal cortex and critical faculty, forgetting that most of our issues and blocks lie in the subconscious mind and in our ego’s primitive, mammalian drive for safety.

3. If we commit to creating change within ourselves, it still requires recommitment and taking full responsibility. Full responsibility.

4. Despite what we’ve been told, profound, lasting change doesn’t require years and years of hard work and blood, sweat and tears.

Some of these statements may appear contradictory. That’s ok. Confusion can be a great sign! It can mean our default beliefs are being challenged.


Let’s consider a few different ways we can work (or perhaps I shall say “play”) with the unconscious mind to affect change. They all involve changing your state to change your experience. If we change our state of being, negative ruminations and fears simply fall away. It’s as though the environmental conditions needed for their survival shift, and they are no longer supported.

HeartMath® Institute gives us techniques whereby we can change our state of being. The more we utilize them, the more our wiring changes, and we’re able to make a more optimal state our default. Does it require effort? Yes. Is it worth it? Yes (in my opinion). Many of the HeartMath techniques can be applied on the run. They’re practical and user-friendly.

Dr. David R. Hawkins - renowned psychiatrist, consciousness researcher and author, taught many ways to change our state of being. One is, to imagine being the person you want to be before you leave home and go about your day. Pretend! You’ll be amazed at just how powerful this experience can be. Why? Because when we imagine we’re using a language of the subconscious mind. It’s fun, too!

If you want help to effect change quickly, consider The Richards Trauma Process (TRTP™). Don’t let the word “trauma” distract you here – we’ve all experienced distress that has had a negative ongoing effect on our lives. This is a profoundly powerful 3-step process that helps us change our state of being (including resolution of chronic stress, anxiety, lack of confidence etc.) and, frankly, our life.  

You now have a selection of means to change your being in order to change your life. Believe me, it’s a much more effective, fun, and powerful approach than ‘trying, trying, trying,’ with effort of will. So… how do you want to be?

Happy? Relaxed? Confident? Free?

Take heart and ask yourself: why not?

If you’d like to explore TRTP™ or HeartMath® privately with Sally, you can book a complimentary strategy consultation here.

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About Sally

As a former international opera singer, Sally Wilson knows a thing or two about being at the top of your field. And she’s discovered first-hand what it feels like to step away from the spotlight and lose your identity.

Through coaching, Sally helps her clients let go of their self-sabotaging beliefs and discover freedom, joy and fulfillment. As an accredited TRTP™ practitioner, Sally uses evidence-based practices to create changes that are quick, safe and lasting.

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