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Anger: Turning Fury into Freedom

When children experience stressful events, it profoundly affects their developing personalities in various ways.

Intense, stressful scenarios can make a child more sensitive to stress, leading to reactions that seem anxious or overwhelmed compared to their peers.

Trust issues may emerge, particularly if the trauma involves betrayal or harm from caregivers, shaping a personality that is cautious or reserved in forming relationships. With an estimated 57% to 75% of Australians experiencing a potentially traumatic event in their lifetime, it stands to reason that as we understand more about the complexities and the nature of stressful events on the brain, and how stressful events in childhood can deeply impact our present life.

Our developing mind might adopt coping mechanisms like emotional detachment or hyper-vigilance, which can become embedded in our personality, influencing interactions and stress management. Additionally, trauma can disrupt emotional regulation, leading to mood swings or challenges in expressing feelings appropriately, and altering self-perception and our world view, possibly feeling isolated or nurturing negative self-beliefs.

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Then there is anger! Anger is a natural emotion that is experienced in many ways. However, regulating strong emotions is a learned skill and while losing control over one’s anger can be unpleasant, having to deal with the fallout can be even more so. In addition, studies show that anger outbursts increase the risk of heart attacks and strokes nearly fivefold within two hours of the event.

Case Study Example:

Alex is the successful founder of a tech startup, respected for his vision and leadership. However, he struggles with managing his anger, which often leads to outbursts at work. These incidents leave his team stressed and Alex embarrassed, recognising his behaviour as harmful. Despite understanding the impact of his actions, Alex is frustrated by his inability to control his reactions or understand their origins. This pattern of sudden anger is negatively affecting both his professional and personal life.

Growing up in an unstable environment, Alex developed coping mechanisms like emotional detachment and hyper-vigilance to navigate his challenging childhood. These strategies, once protective, now hinder his ability to express his emotions healthily and connect with others. He finds himself caught in a cycle of negative self-perception and isolation, further fueling his emotional volatility.

Alex developed the ability to compartmentalise his emotional struggles, keeping them separate from his professional ambitions and tasks. This skill helped him maintain focus and drive in his work, even when personal issues loomed large. But now, with added stress, this compartmentalising is crumbling. Anger Management classes have been suggested to Alex.

He needs help quickly and without the drawn-out months of intensive therapy.

To effectively navigate emotional trauma, it's critical to acknowledge the brain and mind's innate capacity for healing. Relying solely on time or Cognitive Behavourial Therapy may not be sufficient to foster a prompt recovery. Adopting innovative strategies can expedite the healing journey, promoting profound personal growth. Among these, The Richards Trauma Process (TRTP) stands out as a transformative solution. Offering an alternative to conventional approaches, TRTP carves a new path towards emotional wellbeing.

In just three sessions, Alex experienced a profound transformation, describing it as feeling like he's in "new skin." This noticeable change has not only resonated with his colleagues but has also piqued the interest of several family members eager to undergo the same process. Strangely enough (we do witness this with clients from time to time), Alex can't explain it, but he's no longer scared of heights and finds himself shockingly calm in traffic jams and queues. The success seen in Alex's case underscores the powerful impact of TRTP, with word-of-mouth referrals testament to its efficacy and the rewarding nature of facilitating such transformative healing.

To effectively address emotional trauma, it's essential to recognise the brain and mind's healing capabilities.

Relying solely on the passage of time may not be enough. Mental health professionals should consider additional strategies to speed up the healing process and facilitate significant personal growth. The Richards Trauma Process (TRTP) offers a different approach, challenging traditional methods and providing a new pathway to emotional recovery. Exposure to adversity in childhood can build resilience, and can build some great tools, but at some point we grow past the need for these inbuilt strategies and personal growth is the answer.

In Four Sessions: Alex feels like "he's in new skin" his colleagues have commented on the change in him, and not surprisingly, a few family members have been in contact and want whatever Alex had! This is the truly rewarding return on being a TRTP practitioner, most of our referrals are word of mouth.

If you find yourself facing a similar challenge, it's never too late to seek change. TRTP is a results driven method that offers a chance for profound personal development. To live without the constraints of the past is true freedom. Book a call with Sally today and take the first step towards a life where you feel confident and at peace. Let Sally help you transform your life.

Source:

https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/patients/trauma/Pages/trauma-violence-abuse-neglect.aspx

Cheyenne Downey, Aoife Crummy,

The impact of childhood trauma on children's wellbeing and adult behavior,

https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ejtd.2021.100237

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2468749921000375

https://gitnux.org/anger-statistics/

About Sally

As a former international opera singer, Sally Wilson knows a thing or two about being at the top of your field. And she’s discovered first-hand what it feels like to step away from the spotlight and lose your identity.

Through coaching, Sally helps her clients let go of their self-sabotaging beliefs and discover freedom, joy and fulfillment. As an accredited TRTP™ practitioner, Sally uses evidence-based practices to create changes that are quick, safe and lasting.

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