Please listen to this podcast below. ABC Melbourne Radio Interview with Sally Wilson last August 19 where she talked about Imposter Syndrome.
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Please listen to this podcast below. ABC Melbourne Radio Interview with Sally Wilson last August 19 where she talked about Imposter Syndrome.
People pleasers are often aware of the tendency in themselves but unable to resist the compulsion. Why? Because it’s a trauma response. Does this sound far-fetched? Let me explain.Judith Richards (Founder and Creator of The Richards Trauma Process ™ ) describes it as “fight, flight, freeze, appease”, often referred to as ‘fawning’. A people pleaser has learned to appease/fawn in order to be safe. At some point (usually before we’re 8 or so years old) we learn we’re safe if we please those authority figures around us and that we’re unsafe if we don’t. We learn that if everyone around us is happy, then we’re safe. It’s as simple as that. It’s an extremely difficult tendency to break consciously because it’s a survival mechanism.
Read moreFor those of you out there living and valuing a high-octane life, it’s time to rethink your attitude before you get yourself into trouble. So many of us learn that we need to be high energy, ‘up’, high fiving “go go go” all the time to be valid. Some of us believe it’s our job to light up a room or ‘bring the energy’, or that it’s important that others perceive us that way. Some of us value ourselves according to our ability to lift a mood. It might be a source of pride for you.
Read more‘Anger management’ works for some and not others. Why? It’s because the anger resulting from past trauma is different. The anger of PTSD is different. It’s fury. As Judith Richards, Founder & Creator of The Richards Trauma Process, says, trauma anger is rage. It’s uncontrollable and it shoots from 0-1000 in a nanosecond. It’s explosive and it’s a purely instinctive response that generally can’t be ‘managed’ consciously or ‘controlled’ by conscious effort.
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